Thursday, January 13, 2011

Though I've Never Met The Joneses, I am Quite Familiar With Them.

It started in grammar school. It was so blatant, the importance of "Having". Having good looks, having things. If you looked good, you made friends, easily. If you had things, you made friends too. If you had good looks and a bunch of stuff, you were popular. Even the most uncool kid, suddenly became somewhat cool because he had a new Starter jacket or a pair of Air Jordan sneakers.

If you didn't have them, you were certainly aware that you didn't "have" them, at school. Of course, at home, you are taught that "things" are unimportant...that having stuff doesn't make you a good, smart, honest, loving, caring person. You are taught to ignore the hype, because you go to school to learn. Right?
And yet, when you get to school, the exact opposite is being spewed in your face from 9:00 to 2:30. Some children can be so cruel. Some teachers can expect too much from (very young) people who aren't even old enough to earn any income.

This sort of thing didn't go away after the 8th grade. It moved on to high school, where it seemed to grow grew worse. Classmates were in not so quiet competition with each other. Who had what? Who had it first? Whose cost more? While some became popular for the stuff that they had, others got beat up & robbed...a few even lost their lives...over "stuff".

This sort of thing didn't completely go away after graduation, but it dissipated in college..and a few remnants took on a different form in adult life.

Enter The Joneses!!!
Just who are the Joneses?!
Why do people (try, want, need to) keep up with them?

Is it because they harbor notions from their childhood.

What do you say? 
Where does "Keeping Up with Appearances" come from?
Ever met The Joneses?



At January 13, 2011 at 9:51 AM , Blogger jtbrown said...

I believe that "keeping up with appearances" comes from the desire to show that you are the same. I can have what you have kind of thinking. Everyone wants to be on an equal playing field and looked as a worthy of everything. But what I've realized is that there are some people who will "have" from sheer desire, status and such and there are people who will be "have not's" for the same reason. It's a multifaceted process.

At January 13, 2011 at 12:25 PM , Anonymous Carla said...

I went through this but I had to pull myself back. I was on the brink of creating a myriad of financial problems if I had continued. The thing with me was that I actually knew better. I wasn't raised to compete with anyone on a materialistic level. Needless to say, all of that spiraled from lack of self-confidence and worth.

I'm just glad I'm not like that anymore.

At January 14, 2011 at 9:59 AM , Blogger Marie said...

Love your responses on this ladies!!! You're so right JT, there are many many variables involved.


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